We are often hurt by experiences with people who we love the hardest, trust the deepest. Pain from such destruction caused is hard to bounce back from. However, we have two options, best stated by Mulan…. “The past can hurt, but the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it.” Becoming a better person as a result of pain caused to you by someone/something else is the celebrated proof that you can learn from your past.
When your child/teen is reeling from a bad grade, ended relationship, or grief, you have a choice to comfort him/her. Take the opportunity to be a part of that child’s rebuilt better self. Discuss with him/her how he/she can learn from whatever pain experienced. Affirm the reality of what he/she is going through. The last words anyone wants to hear is “It won’t matter five years from now,” so don’t say it. Be the parent that builds your child not breaks him.